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6 Top Reasons Why Couples Divorce

More couples are filing for divorce than ever before. Couples may ultimately decide on divorcing after attempting to salvage their marriage. The following are the most typical reasons people get divorced:

Infidelity

Unfaithfulness, infidelity, cheating – this is the main reason why couples divorce. A spouse may become unfaithful because of family problems and other marital issues that the family and the couple fail to resolve. Infidelity is cited as a major cause of divorces worldwide.

Communication failure

How you communicate is the key to any marriage or relationship. Couples should share a open relationship with each other and should discuss about their plans, problems and accomplishments at work and at home, their concerns, and other personal issues. This will be helpful in growing and developing stronger relationship, Communication is vital. Since the foundation grow weaker without an open line of communication the concept of union came. Since many couples feel they are becoming strangers more and more each day ,they opt for divorce. Some problems are just too big and too hard to find a resolution. They believe their lives will be happier by themselves.

6 Top Reasons Why Couples Divorce

More couples are filing for divorce than ever before. Couples may ultimately decide on divorcing after attempting to salvage their marriage. The following are the most typical reasons people get divorced:

Infidelity

Unfaithfulness, infidelity, cheating – this is the main reason why couples divorce. A spouse may become unfaithful because of family problems and other marital issues that the family and the couple fail to resolve. Infidelity is cited as a major cause of divorces worldwide.

Communication failure

How you communicate is the key to any marriage or relationship. Couples should share a open relationship with each other and should discuss about their plans, problems and accomplishments at work and at home, their concerns, and other personal issues. This will be helpful in growing and developing stronger relationship, Communication is vital. Since the foundation grow weaker without an open line of communication the concept of union came. Since many couples feel they are becoming strangers more and more each day ,they opt for divorce. Some problems are just too big and too hard to find a resolution. They believe their lives will be happier by themselves.

Question by outOfLoveForHer: Is divorce really worse than “working on it”?
My wife and I met in High School and “dated” for 8 years before getting married, and have been married 13 years.We have 2 kids in elementary school. We are both under 40 years old. My wife stayed home through the birth of our kids and then shortly after my second child, she decided to go back to school for her Masters degree, I helped out in every way I could while she went to school, I worked nights and took care of the kids during the day. This strained our relationship severely, but it was already not healthy. I feel my wife could be a “rageaholic” (she comes from an alcoholic family, as do I) and I had been dealing with alcoholism myself which seemed to get worse. Until now, I quit drinking 1 1/2 mos. ago. I don’t think I ever really “loved” my wife, and I think we’re in denial about WHY we married and whether or not we’re even in love. She said we should stay together “for the kids”, but I think this is not the best way. I hope someone has some insight or a story to share.
Schwinn…no girlfriend
Infritsk…I never said I was looking for another relationship
Janetrmi….My wife is religious, I am not
Sandie….What about her anger….that is still there, and she has made no apparent effort to resolve this issue
Paul M…What you say is basically what the book, Too Good to leave, Too bad to stay” by Mira Kirshenbaum states, and I read the book cover to cover.
We have tried counseling several times and she never likes the therapists, I think she doesnt like hearing what they have to say.
In addition to all I’ve said already, I also do not get the feeling she really cares about me, unless she has a vested interest in the situation.

Is divorce an option?

In some articles that I have written so far, I mention, that we human beings like to walk in the path of least resistance; thinking that is going to be better, not realizing that the end result is going to be worse.

Today’s society constantly pounds that we have the right to be happy and loved, indeed we do, but not at the expense of everyone else’s suffering. The worst of all is that we are not going to be happy or loved either. In a divorce there are no winners, everyone loses.

How Do I Tell the Kids About the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide
This unique book doesnt just tell you what to say — it says it for you! Fill-in-the-blank templates show parents how to create a storybook with family photos and history to simplify this tough conversation. With therapist advice. Professionally endorsed.
How Do I Tell the Kids About the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide

Set Free to Remarry-The Bible Teaches Divorce and Remarriage
“Set Free to Remarry-The Bible Teaches Divorce and Remarriage” is a historical and Religious examination of how the Bible has been misinterpreted over time concerning marriage and divorce.
Set Free to Remarry-The Bible Teaches Divorce and Remarriage

Question by Last Ent Wife (RCIA): Is divorce bad for people’s health?
“…the stress of separation and divorce can place both men and women at increased risk for a host of psychological and physical problems. Hetherington observed increased levels of alcoholism, substance abuse, depression, psychosomatic problems, and accidents among divorced adults compared with non-divorced adults. She explains that the martial breakdown can even hamper the immunological system of an individual, making the divorced individual more susceptible to disease, infection, chronic and acute medical problems, and even death.”
Other studies agree, with one even noting that “The health disparity between people who are married and those who are divorced is one of the most consistent observations in health research.”

Are you surprised to learn that divorce can be such a huge physical problem?