Relationship Problem?
Question by So Sick RyaN: Relationship Problem?
Okay, so I am in a long distance relationship with a great girl. We have been dating for about a month. Me, someone who hasn’t had a girlfriend in 10 years finally found someone. We love each other deeply, but there is a problem.
I told my parents I was dating her and they were perfectly fine with it. Last night she told her mom we were dating, and her mom flipped out on her, and she got her phone taken away from her, possibly for month. Her mom also says she is going to call the cable company and get them to tell her every text that was sent between us both. Now, I think that is bit crazy. I mean surely she can be alittle defensive of her daughter, but that doesn’t mean she should be invading our privacy.
Now, none of these texts really frighten me for her eyes to see, none except the last few texts that is. Most of our texts are us checking up on each other, singing to each other, or telling each other “I love you,” but the very last ones worry me alot. We were talking about future sex.
She started texting me how how if she gets pregnant, I can marry her earlier then legal age, which I don’t know is true. Anyway, I told her I wouldn’t impregnate her until we could support a child together, which would include me getting a good paying job and her finishing college. After what I told her, she still wanted to stick to the topic and being the curious teens we are, we continued on. Basically for an hour we were conversing about sex, masturbation, etc. The next day she decided to tell her mom about me finally and her mom flipped out on her. See her mom believes she shouldn’t be dating until she can handle a “real relationship” and is like 19. She tells me her mom is a crazy alcoholic, who will eventually force her to suicide, because she is so strict.
My question is I need any advice on how to handle, or possibly fix this, or prevent her mom from reading our conversations? Any advice is good though. We really need help, and we are both depressed right now.
P.S. In case you are wondering our ages, I am about 17 and she is about 16.
Well I am 16, going to be 17 soon, and she is newly 16. I told her I felt awkward about talking about sex, but she said it was okay and that we should be able to tell each other anything. I also told her that we should wait until we can support a child and are both around the age of 20, or older.
She also wants me to live with her sooner then average people do because she honestly hates her mom, and told me that she would rather live with her dad, but her mom won’t let her. She also had an old boyfriend who died from drugs. He use to come over and comfort her, when her mom was out getting wasted. She told me I remind her of him, and she really worries about me. She was also coming to visit me next year with her sister, but if her mom reads the texts, then she probably won’t let her go. I also promised when I go to Greece, that my family said it was okay for her to join us. Also I live in NY and she lives in Texas.
Best answer:
Answer by Aec J
you might be able to say that it’s not only you guys who use your phones and you let your friends use it and one of you guys’ friends are in a relationship with each other and put that stuff in
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