Do You Think It’s True Hate if You Hate Your Sibling?
Question by Aimee Joans: Do you think it’s true hate if you hate your sibling?
I have a sister who is a couple years younger than me. I am 23 and she is 19. We used to get along really well, but then when I met my boyfriend, she got jealous and hateful. At first, I understood and I would always include her and never ditch her for my boyfriend. She just became a really, hateful, jealous, nasty bitch…even my parents would tell her she has to let the hate go because when we grow up, it’s normal that we meet people who take up more of our lives.
Anyway, I dealt with the jealousy for a couple years and through the years, she has gotten worse.
She is jealous because I have a job and she doesn’t, that I have money saved and she doesn’t, that I am in a stable relationship and she’s not. She would sit at home all day and do nothing and then get mean when she found out that I was going out to a friend’s birthday. She has no friends. I mean, I always told her if she would get a job and do something with her life she would meet people and have a happy life.
Anyway, she was supposed to go to University in September, but right before she was to begin, she met the scum of the earth. This “boyfriend” of hers is addicted to drugs, jobless, 31 years old, steals for a living, drifts from rooming house to rooming house, has a bad attitude, no money and no goals for his future. He is a bum, a dirty nasty piece of crap. He even has a son somewhere with another woman who he never even attempts to contact…he is terrible. My family and I all hate him.
Now my sister has been with him for maybe 5 months and she lives with him and also is jobless. She quit University after 1 day because she would rather have lived with him. So now she has no education, no job, no money, still no friends and she is wasting her life with this guy.
My parents are very upset. It makes me so angry at my sister to see my parents suffer with worry about her. We come from a good home no one understands why she is like this.
My parents have a hard time saying no to her. They completely disagree with her life and yet, they help her and this boyfriend with so much! They give them mattresses so they can have a “bed” to sleep in while they stay in their rooming house…my Dad even gave the boyfriend scrap metal so he could take it to the junkyard and make a few bucks.
I tell my parents you have to stop helping her. I told them she can’t come home because she wants a “break” and then 2 days later go back to him. By doing that, they are just making her life easier to ruin because she can bum around all week and then “escape home” whenever she feels like it. She isn’t even looking for a job she is fully able to work and is applying for welfare.
My Mom buys her stuff like shampoo, food and stuff for her hair…I think that if my sister is choosing this life she should live with everything that comes with it and that means no shampoo, no food, no mattress….she needs to learn that when you don’t work, you can’t afford anything necessary like toothpaste..but my Mom and Dad keep supplying her with these things and then they turn around and vent to me about how upset they are at her and they wish she would come home. My Mom drinks more than she used to (not alcoholic, but she drinks to calm herself down) and I hate the life they are living because of my sister.
So, I fought with my parents last night about them helping her. And you know what? They got mad at me!! They take all their frustration out on me and I can’t take it anymore.
I mean, my sister has even been to jail for violence with another boyfriend about a year ago and my Mom said to me last night that “I am no better than her”…I mean, omg!! I started to cry.
I work full time, I save my money, I go to college part-time and I was told I am no better than my loser lazy bum sister.
So, I called a friend of the family so I can view an apartment this Friday. I am moving out because I can’t take the stress of living in the middle of all this crap. I am not even looking forward to Christmas because nothing is the same.
Anyway, needless to say, I HATE my sister. I really truly hate her. I mean, I honestly feel that if we got a phone call that she was in jail, I would be happy.
I want to move out in order to get comepletely away from everything. I don’t want to hear the heartache, the phone calls and deal with the anger that comes over me everytime I see my parents help these 2 losers out. And the fact that my parents don’t appreciate anything I do to stand up for them, makes me sad and feel sick.
I just hope when my parents are old and need help, my sister and her loser boyfriend are around, because myself and my boyfriend are soooo done!
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