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Question by California Dreamin’: Mom is an alcoholic, I’m confused, I don’t know what to do. Help?
My mom is a progressing alcoholic and I know it’s just gonna get worse if she keeps drinking. Me and my brother are 17 (twins) and we’re gonna turn 18 in about 4 months. My parents separated a year ago, my dad pretty much left my mom for another woman (he was in California and my mom, my bro, and myself were living in South Dakota for a little while, were now living in Cali.) My mom is depressed and stupidly grew feelings for a man she met at a bar. I can’t talk to her like I use to cause she always talking about that man or **** that happens at that damn bar. I’m don’t know what to do about her alcoholism. I know I can’t do anything about it, she needs to stop on her own. Because of her drinking, she hasn’t been making any money so our lights and hot water got turned off. Me and my brother are staying at our dad’s place with “the other woman” so my mom thinks this woman is getting what she wants cause me and my bro gave in and finally met her.
My mom is sitting at our house with the lights off. She doesn’t have to, she could stay at her sister’s house but she doesn’t want to. I don’t get it, why does she want to sit in the dark?? She could stay at her sister’s house and make money so we can try and pay our light bill at least but she doesn’t want to do that. She wants me and my bro to go back home and just ride it out with her with no electricity. I don’t know if I’m in the wrong, but why should I stay there if it wasn’t even my fault were in this situation? The last time I stayed there with her while my brother was at my aunt’s house, I tried to be positive by searching the house for candles, finding things to read, encourging her that we can get the lights back on but she went out and drank and left me for 7 hours in the dark and came home drunk. I just don’t know if I’m doing the right thing staying at my dad’s while my mom is at home in the dark alone. I’m so stressed right now!
I talked to my mom today, I told her I feel I shouldn’t be forced to stay at home with no lights because it’s not my fault we’re in this situation. She told me that doesn’t make sense because we should be sticking by her side no matter what and that she’s trying to be positive and that our negativity drives her to drinking. I told her not to blame her alcoholism on me then she hung up on me. I want to stick by her side but I just can’t cause she won’t stop drinking. I love my mom soooo much, she’s my best friend and it hurts me so much that she’s doing the things she doing. Sometimes I feel like she just tries to pick fights with me so she can go out and drink but I don’t know.
I forgot to add this in but my mom didn’t start drinking until after the separation.

Question by Lioness: Question for men, what is going on with him?
My sweetie has been “depressed” for over a month (money is tight), he doesn’t want to do anything (even free stuff) with me. All he wants to do is sit around, eat and watch TV and he barely talks to me.

How can I tell if his “symptoms” are due to depression or if he just isn’t interested in me anymore.
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Why do guys “shut down” when they are depressed? Doesn’t he know that I love him and that I have his back regardless of the money situation?

What can I do to bring him back from the depths of his “man cave”?

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Answer by AnswerDude
sex gets me happy

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Question by TnT: What do you think of “alcoholic” as a game?
to recognize this game is it important to find a rescuer? (i mean not every alcoholic or dry alcoholic has a rescuer right?)

Can we say that evry alcoholic is playing this game?

What is the best antithesis? ..
the one proposed by Eric Bern in his book (to refuse playing his game) isn’t tough?

Ps: http://www.ericberne.com/games/games_people_play_alcoholic.htm

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Answer by believe it or not!!!
it is good to find the rescuer for alcoholic, isn’t?

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What do you know about drinking alcohol

Used – From the WHAT DO YOU KNOW ABOUT series, an examination of the abuse of alcohol, which discusses the issues raised in each episode of a continuing story. Suitable for National Curriculum Key Stages 2 and 3. Illustrated with photographs, artwork and diagrams.

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Hope in the Morning One Man’s Struggle with Addition and What It Means for You

Used – Michael grew up under the crushing hand of an abusive alcoholic father. As an altar boy, he suffered mental and emotional abuse at the hands of the clergy. Soon, Michael turned his back on the church and God for over 20 years. Unfortunately Gods presence took a back seat to his anger, resentment and disappointment. It was during this period he indulged in many self-destructive behaviors. But he never forgot the God of his youth, and a relationship that nourished and protected him when he

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Question by brian: What is a Drug/Alcohol assessment like?
Ok I was arrested last year and charged with possession of alcohol and trespassing. Im 18 years old by the way. And the court put me on a diversion program and told me i have to go to a Drug/Alcohol assessment clinic or whatever, basically counseling. Can anyone give me information about what these are like. I do not understand why I was put on it because I never drank any alcohol and I personally do not have a problem with it. But can someone give me some details about what this will be like? questions they will ask? etc… Im hoping they realize i do not have an alcohol addiction or anything because its $ 60 per hour and honestly i do not see how this is going to help me “alcoholic problem” that doesnt exist. Thanks!

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