My Boyfriend Driving Me NUTS…again?
Question by Leona N: My boyfriend driving me NUTS…again?
I posted yesterday about some BS with my boyfriend always starting arguments and saying mean things blah blah blah. So once again last night we have another 4 hour conversation that goes nowhere. We live together. He is 35 years old and I’m 27. He is the child of an alcoholic who commited suicide in 2001. He had an addiction to cocaine following his father’s death. And as you can image he has all kinds of issues. In the last 6 months he has been increasingly more accusatory of me.
I enjoy good red wine, and SOME beers. There is usually one or the other in the house. Growing up my dad drank beer everyday and my mom almost everyday. They didn’t get drunk or puke or fight or get nasty.
I would say I do the same as my parents have done. But I don’t drink everyday. My boyfriend is now telling me he won’t be with an alcoholic.
I tell him “Who’s an alcoholic?” He gets in these obsessive cycles of evaluating my behavior to try and diagnose me as some kind of addict. He tells me I need 12 step, I need God. I grew up in church and my father was nearly a preacher! So huh? I sick of being told on a weekly basis I have a problem. Because I don’t. I don’t drink everyday, I haven’t been drunk in years, I drink because that wine compliments dinner, or beer sounds good on a hot day. I drink sometimes b/c I’ve had a stressful day. I don’t think I’m abnormal.
He’s pissing me off with this. I think he’s pushing his insecurities onto me becuase I don’t conduct myself the way HE feels in apporpriate. Anyone that can offer advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.
Best answer:
Answer by ch3z_s
sorry cant help but know exactly how u feel, mines the same, everything is my fault, and twists everything to make out i’m the baddy, makes u feel so low, contemplating leaving mine but when not in this “zone” he’s lovely, says i drink more than him, i drink fri & sat and maybe have a beer on a wed to break the wk up, he drinks all wk end and gets a bot wine mon wed thurs, calls me a junky, hurts!!
sorry i was supposed to help :(
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