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Question by UNXPCTD: How do I tell my date I’m in alcoholism recovery?
I’ve been in recovery from alcoholism for 13 months. I’ve worked the 12 steps with my sponsor, I’m a sponsor for a new comer. And after clearing it with my sponsor, I’m ready to start dating. I’m looking for experience, strength and hope from the online community on dating. I’m not trying to rush into a relationship, just date. At this point, I’m not trying to date anyone in recovery – I’m not saying I never will, just that the “rooms” are sacred to me and I don’t want to do anything that would complicate my or another persons recovery. Not to mention the dreaded “13th stepping” thing. I went on a date recently and drinking came up. My date asked if I drank and I said no, the next question was “You never drink?” and I said no. The NEXT question was “Are you in recovery or something?” -That caught me completely off guard- I said it was a little early to ask me questions like that, especially on the first date.

I am willing to talk about it, but I don’t want to seem like some sort of leper or broken soul because of my recovery status. To me, recovery is complicated and the average person doesn’t understand everything that goes into it. I don’t want to give the impression I’m hiding a dark secret but I do have a right to my privacy and reserve revealing my private life until I’ve established a bond, trust and a reasonable amount of comfort before I open up like that. I don’t want my recovery to be a scarlet letter in my life. Any advice on this is greatly appreciated.

I would appreciate answers from people that have had to deal with this issue. Advice from those in A.A. is what I’m looking for.

Thanks

Best answer:

Answer by suresh
I am willing to talk about it, but I don’t want to seem like some sort of leper or broken soul because of my recovery status. To me, recovery is complicated and the average person doesn’t understand everything that goes into it. I don’t want to give the impression I’m hiding a dark secret but I do have a right to my privacy and reserve revealing my private life until I’ve established a bond, trust and a reasonable amount of comfort before I open up like that. I don’t want my recovery to be a scarlet letter in my life. Any advice on this is greatly appreciated.

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