I Have No Idea What I’m Doing..?
Question by Justin: I have no idea what I’m doing..?
A former girlfriend of mine went to jail. She called me before she was sentenced because she knew she was going to be going away for a while and explained to me that her son (now 4) had nowhere to go. He’s not mine. She had him when I was dating her and we were pretty close then but since she left me I hadn’t seen him. She was crying and told me that if I didn’t take him he’d go to Foster Care. I got a lawyer and did some looking into it and found out she was being honest. He really didn’t have anywhere to go, so I agreed to take him and I am now his legal guardian. She’s gone for the next two years for felony drug charges. I don’t do drugs. That’s why we broke up.
I have no kids of my own. Three weeks ago, I was a bachelor. I’m 27 years old. I had no intentions of settling down and having kids anytime soon, but now I’ve got one and it’s a little overwhelming. I don’t know what to ask when touring preschools or when to take him to the doctor for check ups or any of that.
There’s a “support group” that meets locally that a co worker told me about for single parents and I’m considering going, but I don’t want it to be weird since I know its only single MOMS that go there. Would it be weird for me to show up considering I’m a guy and i’m not really his dad?
I had a girlfriend, but we broke up. She doesn’t like kids and even though she said she was going to “adjust” I noticed that she wasn’t particularly nice to him so she had to go. My mom is useless, as she’s an alcoholic and barely cared for me when I was a child. There’s literally nowhere else to turn.
Best answer:
Answer by Gorda
First I’d like to applaud what you did. You are taking care of a child that needs love and support.
GOOD FOR YOU.
NO there is nothing wrong for you to go to a support group.
If that’s what you need then go for it.
You are doing something really good for the kid.
He needs you now and him being around an alcoholic or a drug addict is not good.
Try and help him grow up to do great things in life and teach him right now what is right and what is wrong.
Try your best but most importantly, love the kid.
That’s all kids really need and want.
Good luck.
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