My Friend Considers Me Dead I Suppose…how Do I Get Past Caring About This?
Question by youdbesolucky: My friend considers me dead I suppose…how do I get past caring about this?
My best friend had a new BF, and when I became friends with him, he eventually started flirting with me. We had more in common than he and my friend did, and we ended up having a sort of emotional affair. We never had sex, we never even kissed, but we did express like for one another and other things that I realize were inappropriate.
When my friend found out, he said he didn’t want to speak to me anymore, yet he is still going out with the guy.
Now I’m an ex-alcoholic, and a few days ago I had some bad family stuff go down and I was really worried about relapsing. I texted my friend and said “I know I’m not the best person in your eyes right now, but there’s a lot going on here and I’m really scared I may drink again…I could use someone to hang out with to keep me from it. Please?” He didn’t answer, and I did end up drinking that night. I’ve drank almost every night since then, and the other night I texted him again and said “I know you hate what I did to you, but I didn’t think it was so horrible you’d stop caring what happened to me as a person. I’m still a human being, and I needed your help.” Again, no response.
I know what I did was bad, but why am I the only one he punishes (since he stayed with the guy), and is what I did so bad that he doesn’t care about me relapsing? It really hurts a lot…and I’m wondering how I can get over this and just say screw him since obviously I’m dead to him.
Best answer:
Answer by ScroogexJones
First of all, you mess’d up. But so did the boyfriend. He should also have to suffer. However it’s totally common for the friend to go rather than the boyfriend/girlfriend…. When that boy is gone, your friend will realize how he was to quick to exile you from his life. Everyone makes mistakes && i know that if he were in your shoes he’d want at least a little mercy. But there’s no undoing it.. What’s done is done, && I hope you apologiz’d sincerely so you can move forward. I’m sure your paths will cross again but for now try your best to move on && be happy. Don’t drink. It makes things worse. Find people to talk to, people who have your best interests at heart. People who will keep you sober. Till then you’ll be okay. It’s amazing what we live through…. =/
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