Alcoholic Parents: Do You Believe the Old Saying “Always Listen to Your Parents?”?
Question by answer please: Do you believe the old saying “always listen to your parents?”?
Personally I think that is “bs”. Let’s be realistic a majority of people are uneducated, imprudent, arrogant, illogical and misconceived in their ideals and planning. I am not talking about educated in the sense that someone possesses a high school diploma or multiple collegiate degrees but general common sense and the ability to execute wise decisions based on clear logic. Many individuals are idiotic in their behavior in a variety of ways. The most educated person can still be flagitious and malignant (Madoff, exec’s of Enron, heck drug lords dealers are pretty intelligent). But if children (more so teenagers) become inveterate with their parent’s way of thinking especially if they are not always stable (in a variety of different ways, I know it’s a broad statement) that inevitably could be detrimental to their lives entirely. Do you really think it’s a good idea to tell a kid whose parent is an alcoholic, doesn’t encourage open mindedness, encourages someone to be well rounded, etc…to always listen to them? I feel like some of the simplest issues in society could be solved if society as a whole became more intelligent and eclectic in their skills to always be able to adapt.
Best answer:
Answer by Diana K
I stopped listening to my parents, for the most part, years ago. Like, in high school. They taught me basics well: Don’t drink, don’t do drugs, etc, but they aren’t me and their experiences are vastly different from mine.
I was always stubborn, strong-willed, independent and able so maybe this way of thinking was born with me. I literally came out of the womb like that-I never wanted to listen to anyone and so I formed my own opinions and my own ideas based on life around me. I don’t want to be in the status quo and I don’t want to “be like everyone else”. I never fit in, even when I tried so that isn’t a factor.
People don’t like to adapt, they don’t like change, they don’t like new ideas or ways of thinking that challenges what they are used to. Or, to put it another way, they like their traditions. You can’t change a person’s ideology. Or, at least, it’s very difficult and people are trained to think one way. For example, I had an uncle once tell me that he could not imagine a world without Christ. I personally feel he was choosing to say this to show how strong in his faith he was rather than saying it because he truly, deep down felt like that. People like that use philosophical fallacies like that to win. There can be no intelligent debate because anyone challenging that ideal has to acknowledge that my uncle would be right to even continue the debate. Then, he would “win” the debate because, frankly, you’ve got nothing.
So no, I don’t listen to my parents without good reason. I’m an intelligent and capable adult. I can learn my own lessons, make my own mistakes and am fully responsible for myself and ONLY myself. No one else is reflected in my success or failures, like many parents are who tell their kids what to do. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.
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