My Marriage Is Affecting My Health Negatively. the Stress Is Literally Killing Me. What Do I Do?
Question by Kimberly G: My marriage is affecting my health negatively. The stress is literally killing me. What do I do?
My husband of 10 years has been just been diagnosed with a porn/sex addiction. His behavior has literally ruined all trust and love that I had for him over the course of our marriage. We have a 16 year old daughter and an 8 year old son. I can’t stand the thought of telling them that my heart is broken and can’t be repaired but after 10 years of counseling and countless other attempts the debilitating pain is still here. I feel like I can’t go on. I need help but my husband has alienated my friends and family by calling them himself every time we have a fight. I don’t want to bother them with more negativity. I feel completely alone. All I want is for him to leave. I need peace. Lately, I’ve been having pains in my chest that radiate to my back and down my left arm after our fights. I have been crying for three days solid. I’m a mess and NOW he wants to go to get therapy for his “addiction.” I’m spent. I’m exhausted after 10 years of hanging in there and I don’t want to fight this fight anymore. How do I tell my family that I can’t take anymore of this? I feel weak and stupid for allowing this kind of treatment to go on for so long. If I die because of the stress then I obviously can’t be there for the kids or anyone. I feel like he’s literally killing me slowly. This is not what I signed up for! Please help me.
Best answer:
Answer by sueby40
Leave him – take back your life – take up new interests and meet new people in your life. Join your local Church, where you will have supportive people. I would also suggest counselling. Your husband is no longer your problem…it is up to him to sort out himself as you can’t do that for him.
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