Alcohol Abuse Advice

Question by 987splat: Are my kids ruined and traumatized by their mothers bad choices?
I was married to my x for 5 years. Seperated in ’01 and divorced and got custody of my children in ’04. My Q is my two kids went through a lot while I left the house, I wish i could have took them with me but you know that laws the mother get the rights of the children. My kids are know in counceling (therapy) and I keep them active in school activites and sports to keep their mind off this crap.
Here it is: they’ve witnissed their mother doing drugs abusing alcohol and having sexual intercourse in front of them. I know this because they were acting out in ways they were not supposed to. I even called children services and had them talk to a psychitrist.
I don’t talk much about their mother to them but they do see her everyother weekend (court order). I asked a Q “Does a mother who lost custody of her children….” Well, I know my daughter wants to move back to her mothers, she don’t say it but she’s miserable here… I just don’t know what to do?
I don’t want my children to follow in their mothers foot steps. What should I do? Am I doing the best I can do? Some of you said I didn’t have a choice where my daughter wanted ti live? Will I do more harm if I keep her?
My kids haven’t “acted out” in the wrong way in a year. I had to keep a sharp eye on them. I would appreciate all the support I can get it!
That’s another reason why I called children services in ’04. Their mother took a drug test and failed it. She was supposed to do in-patient treatment and never went. Children Services dropped my case after a year because she wouldn’t cooperate. I’ve tried getting her help she doesn’t want it.

Best answer:

Answer by edyyrules
well maybe just talking to her will help and ask how she feels. try to make her happy. Also in some way help the mom try to get off drugs. Also talk to the kids how drugs are bad and don’t do them. That kind of stuff u know.

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