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What Can You Do If Your Addicted Relative is Unwilling Or Ambivalent About Getting Help?

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It is important to understand that a person suffering from addiction is essentially captured by the mental addictive forces inside. They feel conflicting emotions and have conflicting thoughts about their problem. In an addict’s private moments of despair he knows that he needs help, but the addicted part of him regains control and the thoughts change. He says to himself “I don’t need help, I don’t need to change. I can beat this thing, anyway everybody is making too much of all this – it’s not that bad.” He might even be saying “Oh yes I know I need help but I will do it my way.” And we watch and wait while he has worsening failed lunges at ‘doing it his way’.

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Question by Barbz: I wont marry an alcoholic. What can I do to help?
My “about to be husband” has a family history of alcohol and drug abuse. For 3 years now I have sat by and watched him drink a 12 pack daily and smoke weed. I have nothing against smoking week every once in awhile (i’m allergic to T.H.C. so I don’t smoke) or drinking a beer or two a night. But it’s got to the point where I feel he’s unhappy if he doesn’t drink or smoke. And I have to compete with those two substances. We are supose to get married in September but last night I told him that I was going to leave him if he didn’t get help, because I can’t see a good and happy future with an alcoholic. And I’m not going to risk my future for someone that wants to throw his away.

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Question by betty: I can’t stop sabotaging my own life! HELP?
My upbringing is not that unique, divorced parents when young, a nice but absent dad, an alcoholic mom, me getting involved in a serious long (10 years) relationship at 15 yrs old, to a guy with degrading views on girls, me loosing myself completely trying to make my parents happy, my ex happy, then my husband happy, my step daughter happy, my own kids happy, my friends happy…etc
I have never even allowed myself to try to be happy bc I simply don’t know how to. I feel the most alive when I have “helped” someone else. Then I feel a sense of self worth if only for the moment.
Needless to say I have been used a bit and not very appreciated (expect from my own children like children mostly do love their parents regardless of what’s going on).
I am now 39 and feel like I’m sinking in to major crisis. I am already on anti depressants, anti anxiety medications, I have terrible mood swings and feel like the biggest looser that has ever lived. I did so good in High School and I wanted to study more but I can’t stop telling myself “what’s the use you’ll never amount to anything anyway” so I don’t even try. Or there is so much I dream of, that I can’t decide…and then I don’t try..bc I’ll just fail or make a bad decision anyway…
My husband has never tried to help or support me either. I’m only good to him as long as I help him and is there for HIM but when I need to talk or just need a shoulder or his friendship, he looks the other way. I hate myself for marrying him too! Seems like I choose partners that treats me like crap…?
I am my own worst enemy!
Help?
I can’t tell you all thanks enough! Your advice really means a lot!!!

Health Care Workers Turn to Alcohol Hair Testing to Help Recovering Alcoholics

Alcohol addiction is a strong disease, taking sometimes years to fully diagnose and treat. Once a person has been diagnosed as an alcoholic, they are always an alcoholic but that does not mean they are any less of a citizen. Continual support and counseling is needed while a person is on their way to recovery. Medically speaking, addiction counselors use several methods to track a patient’s progress. With new alcohol hair testing advances, a counselor can watch the progress of a recovering addict for up to 12 months. Because the types of sensitive testing a patient’s hair sample goes through, the amount of drinking that occurred during a particular week is traceable.

 
How Hair Alcohol Testing Works