Posts Tagged ‘Alcoholics Anonymous’

Question by Jon: My girlfriend is too sensitive and controlling?
I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 2 years now. We met in a Sarbucks, and both happened to be in the program of alcoholics anonymous. I have never met a girl who was so crazy about me, it was actually quite flattering. We were both mutually attracted to each other and about a month into seeing each other, she asked me if we were “official”. Then asked, “can we make it Facebook official?” I was a little weirded out by that question but again, flattered. We started dating. We have a great time together. But she can take things too personally at times, which can make it hard to joke around and really be myself. I love this girl with all my heart, I am loyal to her and I treat her like a princess. Honestly I am very good to her. We argue at times but we get over it. We took a 5 month break in order to work on ourselves and knew that if it was meant to be than we would meet again. Sure enough I was down near her area around October and remembered the good times we had together and decided to give her a call to see how she was. So we got together and recognized each others changes and decided to give it another shot. We took that 5 month break because we were smothering each other and started arguing and just thought it was best to separate for a while. She now has a year + sober from alcohol. I am sober too but do not use the program anymore. I am also on a medicine Suboxone to ensure I don’t go back to my old ways. If you don’t know what it is look it up. So we’ve been back together now for 4 months and so far it’s been great. I even took her with me to CO to spend Christmas with me and my family (too soon? maybe..). I’ve noticed recently that she throws somewhat of a fit if she doesn’t have her way. And I am starting to feel more and more controlled by her because she asks me to change certain things about me. For example, she was going to break up with me unless I attempted to try the program of AA again because she thought a lot of our arguments came from my “alcoholic behavior” and that meetings would fix it/me. I said sure because I didn’t want to lose her and maybe it would be beneficial. She keeps mentioning things like she is worried about being with someone who has been to rehab several times and that I am on Suboxone and that I’m basically just getting high and haven’t really changed. That pisses me off. I’ve grown SO much and come SO far that for her to say some shit like that? Come on. So I’ve asked her to stay out of my “program” and to try and just enjoy the relationship for what it is now and not to worry about the future. I worry about me and you worry about you. Don’t tell me what to do I won’t tell you what to do. But this keeps coming up. And she gets so offended by some of my sarcastic remarks it’s like walking on egg shells now. She just started a full time job (she is 24 and lives at home) and I was at her house last night and jokingly asked for a foot massage. She said no she deserved one because she worked her ASS OFF all week etc. I kind of laughed and said, “wait so sitting in a chair and answering phone calls all day is ‘hard work’?” SHE THREW A FIT!!! I was about to massage her feet!! She left the room with her friend, came back and after a good hour of awkward silence said she was going to bed and that she was really offended etc. I apologized and tried to explain I was kidding and that I’m proud of her for working hard all week etc. She wanted me to drive home. I was in shock. But am somewhat used to this because she does this quite frequently. She doesn’t want to be with someone who cuts her down. So we get her friend and I try to get someone else’s point of view and sure enough the miscommunication issue is resolved and I stay and we have make-up sex and we go to bed. I’m really getting sick of her blaming me for being an asshole and asking me to change in the sense of working a “program” when I don’t even use or drink! I feel our problems come from her taking things too personally and her not getting her way at times. Although most times she gets her way because its ugly if not. Am I crazy or is this girl as immature and dramatic as I think she is? Will she ever see HER part in the arguments and realize that she can’t keep asking me to change and take the time to change herself? I love her and I have patience but being with someone who constantly asks something of me gets old. I told her to stop and to like me for me or that I was going to find someone who does because I like the person I am today and that I won’t change who I am to fit her needs. Should I just leave? I want it to work. THANKS FOR LISTENING TO ME RANT!!!

Treatment For Alcoholic in the News

State calls for ideas on reforming detox services
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Alarmed by a worsening shortage of detox services across Minnesota, state officials are considering dramatic changes to the state's outdated system for treating chronic alcoholics and drug users. Each month, hundreds of heavily intoxicated people cycle …
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Rutgers forum addresses addiction; Experts seek more treatment options
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Niles, the assistant director of the First Step Clinic of the Cumberland County Alcoholism and Drug Abuse Services Department, went to post a comment to an article online and was taken aback by what she saw. “Other people had posted before me and the …
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'Trip to Echo Spring' distills alcohol's role in lives of 6 great writers
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Children Of Alcoholic in the News

Melissa McCarthy's 'easy marriage'
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And Melissa believes life with Ben and their two children doesn't take much effort. "We met working at … In response to her personal upheaval Melissa's character takes a wacky road trip with her lewd, alcoholic and diabetic grandmother. Tammy, which …
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Daily Calendar
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Children's Immunization Clinic: 3-7 p.m., Parkview Conference Center, 1216 S. Eighth St., Beatrice. Appointments … Alcoholics Anonymous: 8 p.m., STEP meeting, The Salvation Army Community Center, Seventh and Market Street, Beatrice. Alcoholics …
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Scoop: MOM on CBS – Monday, January 20, 2014
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MOM is a comedy from executive producer Chuck Lorre starring Anna Faris as a newly sober single mom raising two children in a world full of temptations and pitfalls, and multiple Emmy Award winner Allison Janney as her critical, estranged mother …
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Write about immature years self-destruction, alcohol or egotism-harm. Points crusade: The teenage alcoholism facts tell us that more than than tether million teens are alcoholics. Several million more souse up in problem drinking, such as gorge drinking. The sightly boy takes his first drink at age …
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Daily Reflection
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JANUARY 5 TOTAL ACCEPTANCE He cannot picture life without alcohol Some day he will be unable to imagine life either with alcohol or without it. Then he will know loneliness such as few do. He will be at the jumping-off place. He will wish for the end. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 152 Only an alcoholic c …
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Hurt/Comfort Bingo Blackout (2013)
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Alcoholics Behavior in the News

Formerly homeless twins on the road to normalcy
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Both are alcoholics who have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and a host of other health problems. Within four months of moving into the Lake View YMCA, the brothers were kicked out for drunkenness and unruly behavior. Social workers found them a …
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health bulletin board www.spokesman.com/livewell
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Screenings include: language, physical strength and coordination, vision, hearing, feeding and behavior. Several sites are available. To make …. Alcoholics Anonymous – For 24-hour information and support, call (509) 624-1442. Visit www.aaspokane.org …
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Hounded By Free-Speech Advocate Sarah Palin, MSNBC Host Is Sorry for …
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Palin's comments about Harris Perry's jokes are a sharp turn from what she said about Duck Dynasty patriarch Phil Robertson, when she protected his free speech to compare gay people to bestiality, alcoholics, cheats, and adulterers. Robertson told GQ …
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Question by E: can i take benzodiazipines for anxiety if I have had substance abuse issues in the past?
seriously. I’ve been abusing alcohol heavily to self medicate my chronic anxiety on and off for the past ten years or so.. I’ve been to detox a few times, rehab, and hospitals. Of course I’ve dealt with legal trouble as well, because drinking gets me into a lot of trouble as well. I’ve tried counseling, medication, group therapy, holistic treatment, diet change, church, and more than often: trying to force myself to “stop being weak.” Nothing works. According to the state I’m bipolar which qualifies me for disability (I receive SSI and SSDI) here are some of the medications I’ve tried: adderall celexa lexapro effexor wellbutrin buspar lamictal seroquel abilify dalmane ambien trazodone diazepam straterra buspar vistaril. All of those drugs had severe side effects I could not deal with. The cons outweighed the pros. The adderall turned into severe abuse and I became psychotic for months… It took about 6 months after an overdose to calm down. I’ve never experienced mania in my life without drugs so I know for a fact I’m not bipolar. I’m often depressed but mostly anxious. I have VERY lightly abused a few prescription painkillers but honestly not enough to ever call it a serious problem…might have been heading that way for a bit but I sobered up for 18 months, where I put all my strength and energy into “recovery.” I committed myself to AA (the worst program alive) and went to therapy every week. I spoke with my case manager and continued searching for spirituality. I got a job, moderate exercise, and ate will. I was still dying inside. I went to a hospital that put me on heavy mood stabilizers that triggered compulsive over eating which is horrible since I have underlying health issues so I had to quit. The other unbearable side effects I’ve experienced from medication is insomnia, tardive dyskinesia, heart palpitations, swollen throat, cystic acne, and worsened suicidal thoughts. Not worth it, at all. My anxiety is chronic and involves obsessions, social distress, and panic attacks…I used to have them really bad when I was younger and they are coming back. I contacted a load of psychiatrists and none are accepting new clients. The agency I’m assigned to does not prescribe addictive medication especially to people with substance abuse issues. my neighbors use xanax and I have connections if needed be. I’d rather try a lighter one though such klonopin. I’ve heard that it is the less addicting? I’m not drug seeking…just want to treat my symptoms. i’ve used ativan and valium before and they were life savers but I never went after them hard because I was so scared of withdrawal or adding more problems. Thing is, I think about killing myself every single day…maybe I’m a person that just needs a real anxiety medicine, for life?? Any thoughts on this subject would be appreciated. I feel doomed at the moment. thankyou
oh wait dalmane worked beautifully but it was only a temporary prescription and i was too scared to ask the doctor for a refill because i’m insanely terrified of that kind of pill addiction