Does This Current Generation Believe in the Marriage Vows?
Question by Awesome Nana: Does this current generation believe in the marriage vows?
So many divorces these days and broken homes cause a lot of grief, not just for the spouses but children and extended family. When I was little my mother gave me this advice: “You shouldn’t consider divorce unless you are abused or there is substance abuse (alcohol, drugs) and they do not own up and agree to professional help. If they cheat on you, all bets are off.”
She added: For better and for worse means that you aren’t always going to feel in love- and there might be times you can’t stand the sight of him but that is when your head has to take over and you do what is right for the family. Tough it out and remember why you married them. Talk, talk, talk lots. Be sure you marry a man who has this same belief”.
I took her advice and throughout my 35 years there has been two times I was ready to walk but because he had the same values, I went to him and said “I am not feeling that I love you too much right now and we need to work on this”. It took 6 months the first time and only 2 months the second.
We have an intaked family and the good news is our kids don’t have to split up the holidays. We have lots of great family gatherings and my older kids have taken wives that have the same value about marriage- because after all, even if you divorce it won’t take too long before you hit a similar bump in the road with a new spouse. It’s called life.
So I am curious, how many out there agree with the marriage vows?
Some experts say relationships are as unstable as ever — and divorces are down primarily because more couples live together without marrying. 8.1% of coupled households consist of unmarried heterosexual partners, according to The State of Our Unions 2005, a report issued by the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University and could account for the dropping divorce rate.
To address what I mean by Adultery “making all bets off” is that sharing in the intimacy of sex with another person is a violation of the marital bed. If one can get over it, kudos, however no one would question this as being a valid reason.
Best answer:
Answer by Space Cadet #5
I never think about the vows. I stick around because I like my wife, I married her for good reasons, and if I left it would just make my life worse, not to mention my kids. Our marriage isn’t always fun and I never get laid but I hate quitting. I do not quit things.
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