Mother Alcoholic Problems?
Question by Larissa May :): Mother alcoholic problems?
For as long as I can remember, my mother and I have not been close. Since I was born, to when I was about the age of 14 she would always relapse, and sometimes we would have light physical fights. I would always have to stay with my grandparents, I would even have to change schools periodically, and leave all my friends, and become secluded while she would drink. Then, when she would want “help”, I would always have to take care of her, empty out her puke buckets, feed her, ect. I even remember when I was about 9, for about two weeks I took care of her by myself, I mean I was so young, I didn’t know what was wrong with her. We have had a few boyfriends move in with us, but I mean she always changes when a new one comes along, and she acts fake, and anytime we fight, she always acts like the victim.
I mean she has been a year and a half solber now, but the pain I endured from my childhood is not going away, and she can’t understand why I cannot get over it. She says that emoitonal pain is mine now, and I have to deal with it myself. I do not think its fair to say that when she caused me deep pain, for years on end, and she just expects when she is clean, for me to just deal with it. It makes me feel like since she is okay now, then all of my pain is just my problem, not hers. Like she just forgot about it, and now for the rest of my life, I have to deal with it.
Sure, she takes me to therapy, and gives me the essentials, and ect. But, I just don’t think I can forgive her, I mean its not like I can forgive her. She shouldn’t have drank, I mean sure, she has her everyday stresses about life, and other alcoholics do, but they went through it all, without drinking.
I mean, I am an alcoholic also, but she acts like my disease affects her more, and she makes it about her. She always has to be the victim, which I never understood.
So my question is, what should I do?
Should I just avoid this pain, that I have endured for a good part of my life, or should I move on, and forget about her?
Please help me.
(I am almost sixteen by the way)
I am not too young to be an alcoholic.
Best answer:
Answer by BET
You are TOO young to be an alcoholic Get yourself some help first then you can help others. Go to a Church Bible Study and Worship Service. Do what you have to to get control of your life.
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