How Did I Do on My First Date? What Should I Do for My Second?
Question by Andrew: How did I do on my first date? What should I do for my second?
I’ve known this girl for the past few months whom I’ve met at this after school club. The first time I went, she asked me what my name was, and that was it, we started talking immediately about whatever. Over time, I got to know her better and hang out with her 1 on 1 in that club. And I say hi to her in the hallways at school. Eventually I got her number and we text each other and talk about anything and everything.
So anyway, I haven’t hung out with her outside of school because of scheduling conflicts on one side or the other. But yesterday, it was just me and her. I never officially asked her out, but it turned out like that. I told her I might not be able to go tonight, but she urged me to try and free up my schedule. I don’t know if she considered it hanging out or as a date.
Anyway, I picked her up, took her to get some ice cream, go bowling, and then I just drove around town everywhere talking/flirting to her. I paid for almost everything (except if she felt guilty and wanted to pay for something, so I let her pay for something small like a game of air hockey.)
I flirted around with her a bit, saying she smelled really nice, I took her phone away from her a few times when she was texting half the time, and she was giggling trying to get it back. I didn’t really take it as a sign of disrespect because apparently it was an “addiction” or whatever according to her, which I can understand with some teenage girls.
At the end of the date, I hugged her and she said she had a lot of fun and definitely wants to hang out with me again.
Am I friend zoned at this point? I mean she agreed to hang out with me 1 on 1 and I paid for mostly everything, opened doors for her, flirted a bit, etc. Even her best friend joked around about her being on a date on her facebook wall….
***NOW let’s say hypothetically she likes me and we’re doing a second date, what should it be? I was thinking dinner at someplace like Chipotle. But then I have no clue. I was gonna say we should see a movie, but there’s no talking, and it would be too soon to cuddle, wouldn’t it?
Can I expect a kiss from the 2nd date? I’m not in a rush to kiss her or anything, but I don’t want to stay still and not make a move if I have the opportunity.
Well in NY, it’s winter time, so its about 30-40 degrees on an average day. I think mini golfing is out as good of an idea that is.
There’s no parks really to walk with her either.
Maybe a movie, dinner, and then walk around the mall?
That was my first date ever and I didn’t really feel nervous, everything felt natural. Can I still say something like, “do you wanna go out this saturday” or something? Or do I still refer to it as hanging out?
What’s the policy on flirting? Like take handholding for example, would she offer to hold my hand and I go with it? Or do I make the move?
Or idk, how should I act during a movie? Hold her close?
Best answer:
Answer by MM?
Ur doing fine man. I think u should take her to a movie and dinner next date so u can talk about the movie at dinner and that can lead to a long conversation most of the time. Just do what u r doing.
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