Alcohol Abuse Advice

Marriage Counseling Won’t Work – if You Never See Him or Her Anymore

Where do you live? Do you live in a city, an apartment, a house or the country? Or do you live in a family? Or maybe where you really live is within yourself. Think about it. You are constantly surrounded, physically by your physical environment. You are constantly surrounded, psychologically by your thoughts and feelings. You are constantly surrounded, spiritually by love, the universal expression of God. Where do you live?

If you meet somebody for the first time and have a pleasant conversation the memory of your positive encounter will remain within your mind forever. The good feeling associated with that memory, no matter how deeply buried in your subconscious mind, will never erode. If you meet that person again, however, and discover things that are offensive to you the previous feelings will change. Even though you may eventually agree with the person’s point of view through experiences of your own, the negative feelings will prevail. Isn’t the mind fascinating? In many ways the mind can trip you up by holding onto thoughts and feelings that don’t even make sense to you.

3 Things To Think About

Do you have a mind or are you the mind?
Can you control your mind or are you a victim of its habits?
Is love and an abstract thought of the mind or an experience of the mind?

Marriage is not a political or civil union; it is a spiritual union between two souls. The purpose of marriage is deep and wonderful. The family created by a marriage acts as a doorway for souls to come into the world and grow from the experiences God wants us to have. Unfortunately we lose control over our mind and become victims of it instead of masters over it. The result is often catastrophic and can lead to drug and alcohol abuse, depression, and other diseases of the mind. Stop blaming your partner for their errors. Use your will power to control the mind that is under your influence and force it to enjoy the peaceful state of love that is your entitlement. Marriage counseling won’t work for you because western psychologists don’t understand that man is triune, and that life’s challenges must be met spiritually as well as psychologically. You the soul have to get control over your mind. The negative thoughts don’t come from within you but you allow them in, and entertain them. You don’t have to do that anymore. You already filter some of your thoughts, the ones that you know will get you into trouble if you act upon them. You have the ability to filter virtually all of your thoughts, entertaining only the ones that bring peace and harmony to your marriage. God didn’t intend for marriage to be hard. It is only hard because you don’t understand the principles. Start by controlling your mind.

Here Are 4 Things You Can Do To Start Controlling Your Mind:

Stop criticizing your spouse.
Start being nice to your spouse.
Stop negative thoughts dead in their tracks.
Invite positive thoughts into your mind.

PS: Tell your spouse, “I love you”