Someone Close to Me Being Abused; What Are My Options?
Question by Brian: Someone Close to Me Being Abused; What are my Options?
There’s someone very close to me (our relationship is a non-factor in this) who is being abused to varying degrees by her parents. She is 16, and lives in Long Island. I also live in New York, but not in Long Island. She’s an only child and lives with both parents. There is no immediate family in the area, although she has a grandmother that lives in a different part of Long Island. She has friends that she could possibly be able to stay with if she needs to.
As for the abuse, she expressed to me the incidents which are occurring in her home, and that have occurred during her life. Her father is regarded as an “alcoholic,” in the neighborhood. He is emotionally abusive and generally not a nice person to the person in question. He makes general remarks on her worthlessness, and makes ominous statements when trying to force her to do things he wants. He yells at her all the time, and has forced her to scream in terror, out of fear of being hurt (I’ve personally witnessed this). He also physically abuses her. He chokes her on an infrequent basis, but recently she’s grown strong enough to resist him, leading to him twisting her arm and screaming in her face. She’s told me several accounts of how he used to choke her (in his truck, in her room), but what is most disturbing is that she described an incident during which he was drunk, and attempted to kill her.
The mother is more abusive consistently, although not clearly. Her abuse is confined to emotional, besides one incident. The physical incident consisted on grabbing the daughter’s arm and yanking her into the car out of anger. The emotional abuse is more frequent, but is not so clearly seen as abuse. She keeps a decent relationship with the daughter most of the time, but occasionally and more frequently as of late has been increasingly limiting her privilages around the house and verbally attacking her. Two examples include telling her that she hated her for something as trivial as not wanting to do a school activity, and remarking that “Our toiletpaper is more important than your tears,” when she took some to dry her eyes. She has been taking her cell phone away, not allowing her to use it at all, as well as her laptop.
She tried to go to a school social worker, but all the social worker did was call her parents (after she specifically requested for them not to), and suggest she get a psych evalulation. Her parents greatly restricted her rights after this, taking her phone and laptop. On Friday morning, she ran away to a friend’s house, being caught by the mother and running anyway. At the friend’s house, she explained the situation to the mother, who in turn called CPS. The subject’s mother called the police and had her recovered. The subject attempted to explain the situation to the police to get help, but it yielded none. The friend’s mother would later say that she “did a poor job of explaining the situation to them.” Now, she’s confined to her house, and can only occasionally sneak communication with me. According to what I was able to gather from her quick messages, CPS showed up at her house, but she’s still there. I’m totally unsure of what to do, and was wondering if there were any options to have her removed from the house legally. She realizes the need to go.
This is very time sensitive, but I feel as if there are very few options left. Her safety is paramount in this situation, but ideally she would like to be removed from the house. Her quality of life is poor. She is safe, now that the parents know they can no longer physically harm her, but she’s basically unable to communicate with the outside world. Please help.
P.S- The parents blame me for what’s happened, and so we’re basically communicating exclusively in secret from now on. This is unlikely to change, but my communication and relationship with her is very important to me.
Again, I’m not sure what else there’s left to report. CPS apparently didn’t do anything, and the parents exclusively blame me for what happened.
Best answer:
Answer by angel34
Report it immediatly or it will make her go insane which would lead to sucide.
i’m sure she would love you for saving her.
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