Is He Just Letting Me Down Easy or Does This “You Deserve More” Line Ring True?
Question by ginainjersey: Is he just letting me down easy or does this “you deserve more” line ring true?
We’ve been dating almost 4 months. He’s 34, never been married, admits to commitment issues, has said from the beginning that I am a different kind of woman than he usually dates, (in a good way) and wanted to try for something more serious with me. First 3 months were wonderful, seeing each other every other day, talking 2 or 3 times a day by phone (him making most of the calls). About 3 weeks ago, I noticed a definite change, going out with his friends more, seeing me less (2 or 3 times a week), and calling less, (once per day or texting and not calling.) There have been no arguments or drama though he had talked alot about “how did he end up with a good woman” and “what am I going to do with you?” Monday, (2 nights ago), he hadn’t called all day, though he had texted. So I called him late that evening, to which he sent the call to voice-mail, and I texted to ask if he was okay. He replies with ” A lot is on his mind so he’s been laying low by himself and that I deserve so much more than he can give me right now.” I ask if there was someone else, to which he replied “NO!” I replied that “I truly cared for him more than he knew and would give him some space, that if he wanted to break things off I’d respect that but I think it would be a loss for both of us.” He didn’t reply to the text but called yesterday just to say “hello” and texted today commenting on it being a “nice day.” I’ll also mention that he has a history of addiction, (alcohol/substance abuse) and there are a few signs of perhaps a relapse in that area of his life, although he tries to keep it from me. What do you think’s really going on with him and what should I do? I have not initiated contact since my “serious” text Monday night. Thanks for the help!
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