Why Do Women in Abusive Marriages Seem Happy?
Question by sugar.kiss89: Why do women in abusive marriages seem happy?
Why do women in abusive marriages “seem” happy and won’t leave the man they *love*??
Why is it that women with abusive husbands, with no control over their lives and no self-esteem put on a facade of being happy.
My mother is in such a relationship. She truly believes there is nothing wrong with her marriage and that she is happy. She’s a sunny-faced alcoholic with no interests, no real friends and control over her life yet smiling face and swears she’s happy. She gets drunk almost every night. She jokes that her husband “prefers the dog to her”. He is regularly abusive to her, interspersed with strongly “loving” periods and he is her life – she could not function without him.
I know another woman, who’se husband made her *fight* for him with other women. She never has a bad word for her husband – despite the fact that he does not talk to his adult daughter – instead, she is happy for the “misfortune” of those other women who didn’t get him.
The highlight of her marriage is that her husband never cheated on her. She seems happy as larry.
Conversely, many women with good guys say they are not satisfied and always complain about their spouses- yet, they lead productive, happy lives, have a lot of friends and admit to having made the right decision to marry them. I guess for them the “grass is greener”.
Is living in denial truly better for oneself? Both the women in abusive marriages are truly deluded. Will they realise their idiocy in the end?
Best answer:
Answer by ah-ight
for some, it becomes an addiction
for others, it’s just what they’re used to.
maybe that’s all they’ve ever known. maybe they don’t know what love really means.
i agree they need help, but until they see that, what can we do?
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