My Wife Resents & Hates Me for My Years of Drinking Pls Help?
Question by krhoads2429: My wife resents & hates me for my years of drinking pls help?
I am a recovering alcoholic almost 2 years sober. I have been married for 15 yrs. I have never been physically abusive. I have been verbaly abusive and did not realize the extent of the damage that I caused my wife. I have always been a good provider but to my recolection looking back on it not much of a husband. I was self centered and took her for granted. She is a wonderful caring woman who stuck it out all those years. I learn now due to our two children. We are both educated middle income family. I put myself in rehab 2 years ago and have not drank since. She said I was like the man she always wanted me to be when I got out. After awhile I wasn’t drinking so I slacked on aa and the steps. I regressed back to my alcoholic personality. “a dry drunk” I did not realize this and she had gotten to the point of holding all her feelings inside. She loves me but she is not in love with me. She resents me to the point of hatred. I love her dearly and am dead inside for doing this to her. Is it possible for her to ever get these feelings back again? After this revelation I have put in place all the things that I need to continue for my further recovery. I have given her all the love,caring,understanding and patients that I possibly can. I am a good husband now. I am affrade it is to little to late. She wants to sepperate and does not think she can get her feelings back for me again. What can I do to help her with out pushing her further away? Please help!
My real question is weather or not it is possible for my wife to recover and heal to the point of learning from this experience and putting this behind us. I love her with all my heart. I dont want to make mistakes to further push her away.
We have started counseling 3 wks ago
Best answer:
Answer by Poppy
You keep doing what you are doing and hope for the best. It is possible though that you burned those bridges and can never cross back to where you were. Some lessons are just learned to late and too hard. Keep trying though.
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