How to Relate to Friend and Her Dysfunctional Family Problems?
Question by Carrie: How to relate to friend and her dysfunctional family problems?
I have a good friend and she has a dysfunctional family. Her dad is an alcohlic, her mom is mean, her grandma is mean and probably an alcoholic. Her family is full of enablers, including herself, but they probably don’t know it. I happen to know a bit about this since there are lots of alcoholics in my own family. I don’t live near my family, though, so there’s not much drama. The thing is, my friend has lots of times when she is really “wrapped up” in all sorts of family drama. I just want to say “what the heck are you doing?!” because they don’t treat her right. She gets all stressed out because of them. But she has the idea that you “help” family no matter what. I think that if a relationship is unhealthy you distance youself and focus on your marriage and kids. She doesn’t really want advice she just vents to me. It gets so frustrating. What should I do? Give advice or just listen?
Best answer:
Answer by independent
If she doesn’t want to listen, you can’t do much about it. It is rather kind of you to be there to support her and listen to her. At the same time, it is miserable knowing that your friend continues to make the same mistake.
I suggest you two do some girl bonding. it will help alleviate stress on both sides. karaoke, gym, spa, or shopping are some ideas to look at.
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