Living With an Alcoholic: What Should I Do About My Alcoholic Father?
Question by : What should I do about my alcoholic father?
I apologize if this is too long, I’m just trying to be specific.
I’m sixteen and my dad has been an alcoholic all my life. He’s not exactly violent nowadays, but I do remember from my childhood times when I saw my mom get shoved against a wall. I also remember nights when I cried in my room while my dad, mother, and older sister were just screaming at each other.
I wish I could be like most of the people I hear online when they speak of having an alcoholic “loved one” but I find it very hard to come up with a reason to actually love him. There are times today and in the past whereas he was sober and I could actually talk to him. But those memories are greatly outnumbered by the majority of memories I have of my father that are just him being a monster.
I’ve never invited any friends over from school because of my dad. I feel awkward at school so I don’t ask people if I can hang out with them after school. Plus, I’ve never dated a girl before because I was afraid that my father was just going to make her feel uncomfortable.
For the past couple of years, I’ve been really depressed and I have a lot of anxiety because of my dad’s alcoholism and how it effects me. About a year ago, I began cutting myself but I’ve stopped. However, because I’ve been really stressed this year, I scratched myself until I bled in the middle of class when no one looks. I’m not an immediate risk of suicide but I fear that in the future I may become so depressed whereas I actually might go through with suicide.
I have absolutely no hope that my dad will ever stop drinking and my mom doesn’t know how to help me.
I’ve heard of Al-Anon but I don’t live near where any of the meetings take place so I don’t know where I’m supposed to turn.
Best answer:
Answer by Daryn
If you won’t get professional help for your father… Okay.
But know this: you’re almost eighteen. (still a ways to go, yeah). But yyou can be soooo much better than he is! Please, don’t become an alcoholic, ask to spend time with friends. Please, just avoid being like your father.
At least get help for yourself.
Please don’t become alcoholic or anything. Don’t be anything like him. Make that as a goal in your life. To not be him, to be someone amazing.
Don’t hurt yourself, and don’t kill yourself. Please.
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