What to Do About Screwy Problems…alcoholic Parent…?
Question by Rob: what to do about screwy problems…alcoholic parent…?
so, i’m 20. my father has been dealing with addiction to beer and such for the longest time. i don’t remember him ever NOT drinking. anyways as a child i think it caused some fked up stuff in me and my sisters heads and such, and when i was like 8 or something my dad got in a near fatal car accident from what would you guess….drinking and driving. my sisters liver got toasted and they somehow tied all the mush back together and it healed, seemed like a miracle to everyone (hearing how they spoke about it). anyways, so my dad drinking has always been a problem. but i always ignored it and once i was like 14 started smoking weed, it was a daily thing. i still smoke daily, i’ll be 21 in december. if i don’t smoke i flip out, too much stress.
he has a disease, multiple sclerosis, and a pretty..broken leg. i don’t think its still considered “broken” but it sure as hell doesn’t work. his other leg is terrible too because he doesnt walk anymore (only occasionally and very briefly with a walker, putting most of his effort in his arms)
i try to get him to use the walker, i took him to the pool, jacuzzi..
the point of this is that today his IDIOT “girlfriend” finally pushed me to the limit, taking an alcoholic to a fking liqour store out of ALL places on earth. well, she got the door slammed in her face REAL quick today. lucky i didn’t beat the living shyt out of her…anyways. he made me cry today, a 20 year old dude. rediculous, i had to pick him up out of her car while he’s talking drunk nonsense, put my dad in his wheelchair, get him in the driveway, watch him not be able to go up the steps, picked him up, put him at the top of the stairs (i carry him frequently and it scares me that he can’t do it himself.., plus its tiring he weighs like 180 or something. i’m 265) and he couldn’t even crawl inside….picked him up, put him in the shower……couldn’t get in or out….couldn’t get in his chair after…..and last but not least i had to put him back in his bed. *tearing up all to hell right now* and anyways, its really starting to screw with my head….i scolded him for about an hour and he “finally got the message” which i don’t believe at all. anyways i’m doing my absolute best to keep him away from the stuff, but it makes me even sadder because sometimes he says things i know he doesn’t mean, things like “you’re a real a hole, i’d never do this to you EVER” and stuff like that, and i know its just cuz he’s mad and whatnot, he’s about 51 years old and his disease (Multiple Sclerosis) really messes with his memory and stuff. so its hard for him to believe me when i tell him its terrible for him, he mixes it with his medication, he thinks because he was a hippy and did acid he can handle anything, i tell him its not how ballsy you are, its chemistry, mixing 2 volatile chemicals could = BOOOM. i gave him the simplest answer, pour baking soda in a cup of water. thats what happens when you mix your meds (methodone before, oxycontin before, morphine pills now, he is going back to oxy i think) its all perscribed by DR’s for his pain, MS+Leg+no walking.
anyways i thought i needed to vent somewhere, and ask, what would someone do if they were in this position? how do you help someone who almost rejects the help? I just moved from washington state to california to help him because his mother died, my grandmother about 2 months ago, so we are dealing with that as well. my family deemed me “saviour” of my father, and its hard as HELL to help him at all because anything he wants, he wants done in an exact manner, even if its less efficient.. not to mention the other problems i have….we are trying to clear this house out, sell it, and drive states away to live somewhere else (idaho) (his life plan finally is possible) and MY problems….”moderate” anxiety, depression, and a bit of anger issues (just overreacting when insulted or when i prove to someone they are wrong, i tend to carry on an argument as long as physically possible untill they just want to leave…but i only do that with my mom, dad, and sister) anyways…i’m near exploding point and i need a comment, hopefully someone reads this friggin thing. i put the effort in >.< thanks in advance for any sort of reply ^_^" Rob lmfao capn mo, i don't have a problem with drinking in general :) but for him yes, disabled, disease, and not in condition for it. he compares himself to other people his age that drink. they don't have his problems or health. they can get things done. Best answer:
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