Symptoms of Mental Abuse: Can You Have BPD Without Fear of Abandonment?
Question by deathvalleydiva: Can you have BPD without fear of abandonment?
My boyfriend and I have been seeing a therapist because we’ve been very happy for 3 years but lately his temper has gotten really bad. He’s even gotten physical with me. The therapist strongly suspects BPD so we read up on it. He has a LOT of the symptoms but he lacks the hallmark “fear of abandonment.” If anything I’d call him a loner. He’s not the kind of guy who has to have a girlfriend at all times. He’s not controlling or jealous AT ALL. In fact, when we get in arguments HE’LL be the one to hastily say we should break up. I feel like he’s indifferent to me (lately), not scared of losing me. It’s gotten to the point where he breaks up with me almost every other day. I know you’re wondering why I’m staying with him, it’s because he wasn’t always like this, I agree that SOMETHING is going on with him mentally I just wonder if it could be BPD since he doesn’t have fear of abandonment. (and he wasn’t abused as a child, he had very loving, very supportive parents who are still love him very much) He’s 36 by the way, if that helps. Never been married and has no kids. History of drug and alcohol abuse, and one suicide attempt 10 years ago.
Best answer:
Answer by Beachlover
The things you described could still be signs of fear of abandonment. The thing with people with bpd is they can quickly go from loving you to not giving a shit about you. Their show of attachment radically changes at the sign of danger, the sign of possible abandonment. So by not caring, and trying to dump you everyday, could easily be his way of dealing with his underlying fear being left alone by your own choice not his.
Know better? Leave your own answer in the comments!
Many soldiers return from war only to face post-traumatic stress
Filed under: symptoms of mental abuse
Veterans usually don't seek medical help until an event forces them to admit that they have a problem, according to Brenda Sikorski a psychiatric nurse practitioner for the Veterans Affairs Mental Health Services at the William Beaumont Army Medical …
Source
CW v SG [2013] EWHC 854 (Fam)
Filed under: symptoms of mental abuse
So far as the allegations of sexual abuse are concerned, the father has changed his position at several points over the years. In the papers, there is a reference to a comment which he is said to have made to a mental health nurse in the presence of …
Source
Find More Symptoms Of Mental Abuse Information…