Mom Is an Alcoholic, I’m Confused, I Don’t Know What to Do. Help?
Question by California Dreamin’: Mom is an alcoholic, I’m confused, I don’t know what to do. Help?
My mom is a progressing alcoholic and I know it’s just gonna get worse if she keeps drinking. Me and my brother are 17 (twins) and we’re gonna turn 18 in about 4 months. My parents separated a year ago, my dad pretty much left my mom for another woman (he was in California and my mom, my bro, and myself were living in South Dakota for a little while, were now living in Cali.) My mom is depressed and stupidly grew feelings for a man she met at a bar. I can’t talk to her like I use to cause she always talking about that man or **** that happens at that damn bar. I’m don’t know what to do about her alcoholism. I know I can’t do anything about it, she needs to stop on her own. Because of her drinking, she hasn’t been making any money so our lights and hot water got turned off. Me and my brother are staying at our dad’s place with “the other woman” so my mom thinks this woman is getting what she wants cause me and my bro gave in and finally met her.
My mom is sitting at our house with the lights off. She doesn’t have to, she could stay at her sister’s house but she doesn’t want to. I don’t get it, why does she want to sit in the dark?? She could stay at her sister’s house and make money so we can try and pay our light bill at least but she doesn’t want to do that. She wants me and my bro to go back home and just ride it out with her with no electricity. I don’t know if I’m in the wrong, but why should I stay there if it wasn’t even my fault were in this situation? The last time I stayed there with her while my brother was at my aunt’s house, I tried to be positive by searching the house for candles, finding things to read, encourging her that we can get the lights back on but she went out and drank and left me for 7 hours in the dark and came home drunk. I just don’t know if I’m doing the right thing staying at my dad’s while my mom is at home in the dark alone. I’m so stressed right now!
I talked to my mom today, I told her I feel I shouldn’t be forced to stay at home with no lights because it’s not my fault we’re in this situation. She told me that doesn’t make sense because we should be sticking by her side no matter what and that she’s trying to be positive and that our negativity drives her to drinking. I told her not to blame her alcoholism on me then she hung up on me. I want to stick by her side but I just can’t cause she won’t stop drinking. I love my mom soooo much, she’s my best friend and it hurts me so much that she’s doing the things she doing. Sometimes I feel like she just tries to pick fights with me so she can go out and drink but I don’t know.
I forgot to add this in but my mom didn’t start drinking until after the separation.
Best answer:
Answer by Sam N
try to get her help by joining a group or something. or just shake her and talk to her while trying to get rid of the alcohol.
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